In the newspapers and magazines
Vuyo Raymond Matinyana died on the 14th of November 2001. Many knew him by
his stage name Miss Thandi. He was the founder and leader of the Afro Vibes
Band, founder and chairperson of the Afro Vibes Foundation and initiator and
organizer of the yearly Afro Vibes Festival.
Raymond spent his youth in South Africa living in poverty and oppressed by apartheid,
but with his perseverance, persuasiveness and artistic talent he managed to
leave South Africa and build up an artistic career. He found it important to
highlight the positive aspects of his country and he wanted to help build a
just South Africa. Here follows a personal account of the months surrounding
the death of Raymond, written by his partner Jan Blom.
SICKNESS AND WORK
Raymond complained of stomach problems about six weeks before his death. When
the problem didn't go away he decided to go to the doctor. A blood test indicated
that he had Hepatitis-B, the symptoms of which are tiredness and nausea. Raymond
slept a lot, and was more or less able to carry on with his work. He was busy
with the mixing of recordings for his CD and visited the Womex - an international
music fair in Rotterdam - many times to promote his band and CD.
There was nothing to suggest the beginning of the end and we were positive about
how favourably things were beginning to develop. The band was getting more and
better assignments. The recording of the CD went well and the Foundation was
beginning to function more and more professionally. Raymond said: "It looks
as though our dreams are finally coming true." Despite his illness our future
looked rosier than ever.
THE LAST SHOW, THE LAST DAY
Raymond felt fitter in the last days before he died than before, and he went
to the hospital for a check up the day before his death. The blood tests showed
an improvement in most of his liver functions. The only drawback was that he
felt nauseous in the hospital, but with his sickness we thought it was nothing
to worry about. The doctor allowed him to go home.
He was very tired and had a performance that evening. I took the rest of the
day off from my work to help him as much as possible with the show. With blankets
and cushions in the car and an inflatable bed back stage where he could rest.
The show cost him a lot of energy, but he made use of the band's experience
and it turned out to be a beautiful performance.
He slept very badly that night; he was hyperventilating and being ill. I went
to work in the morning but I was very concerned. I was sent home to discuss
the situation with the doctor. When he heard the symptoms the doctor sent for
an ambulance to take him to hospital. After just a few hours in the hospital
the doctor told me that all liver functions had stopped and that the situation
looked very sombre. Everyone fought for his life with all they had, but it did
not help. He died the same evening. An extraordinary and unpredictable end to
his sickness. And for me a nightmare from which I've not been able to wake.
VISITORS ALLOWED AT HOME
first reaction was to get away; with my parents to Zwolle. I asked Piet van
Nierop to protect me for a while from telephone calls. Well, that was not possible
and most South Africans just phoned.
I returned to Amsterdam the next morning where people were waiting on the doorstep!
And I phoned Piet to tell him to let the calls through again, the more the better.
The house was full every afternoon and evening: talking, singing, dancing, crying,
laughing and discussing what had happened a thousand times over. There were
flowers everywhere, masses of cards, hundreds of emails. Fulltime processing
therapy. A warm blanket. Not only for me, it's unbelievable just how many people
were deeply touched by the death of Raymond.
The household duties were taken over by friends. Even shopping and cooking was
not allowed. I did however ask to be alone at night. In the meantime so many
people were busy with the business of organizing matters. I could delegate almost
everything which was necessary, because I was exhausted from the emotion and
LYING IN STATE
The undertaker was flexible in the laying out of Raymond: the standard half hour
was stretched to four hours without a problem and we were given a large hall.
The beginning of the evening had a suffocating sombreness, far too Dutch! I
turned the music up louder, but it did not help. It was as though everyone was
waiting for Raymond before the party could start. Luckily Reverend Dube's service
was very therapeutical. First the intense sadness and the tears of loss, climaxing
with everyone crying around the body of Raymond. After that the comforting and
the joy of all the beauty that Raymond gave us. The playing of Raymond's CD
was the most intense and most beautiful moment for me. The evening ended in
a relaxed and pleasant atmosphere after all the emotions.
FAREWELL PARTY IN THE MELKWEG
"To celebrate the life of Raymond" was the theme of the memorial service and concert
in the Melkweg in Amsterdam. It was truly a party in Raymond's style: intense,
warm and with great diversity in the performances.
Reverend Ntoane spoke on the basis of a story by Toon Tellegen. The ant:
"Do you think that we will ever be finished, squirrel?". A simple question
that is too difficult to answer: "What I don't know I can't name."
The Afro Vibes Band evoked two contradictory feelings in me: joy because of
the beautiful show and sadness because of the emptiness. The band had already
performed twice without Raymond and the money was used to finance the funeral
and to support for the family in South Africa.
The request for donations for these two funds got a huge reaction. Not only
the funeral costs were covered, but also the building of the family's house
in South Africa can now be finished.
The afternoon in the Melkweg was organized in only one week and was made possible
by the selfless efforts of all the artists - we want to do something, would
that be possible? And the many helping hands and the Melkweg.
Thank you all for the impressive afternoon.
I will name the many other people and groups who performed, running the risk
of forgetting someone:
Buti Mohajane en Bunie M. Matlanyane Sexwale (masters of ceremony)
CASA-koor, Sean Bergin, Chicken Chin, Jazzabell, Lou Prince, Shine Band, Phola
Mamba Duo, De Nieuwe Amsterdam, Rebecca Atanga, Congo Banga, Leopoldo & Marise
da Silveira, Tribal Countdown, Sibu Mbatho, Thandi Vilakazi, Harriet Matiwana
Sibongile Mvubelo, Khadijatou Silcott-Fraser, Rochelle Bramdaw (poetry)
Louis Malete, Jina & Simone, Sherwin Lundell (speech)
It was the wish of the family that Raymond should be buried in South Africa.
I was happy about that, because looking outside on a cold grey November day
it would have been unbearable; he belongs in Port Alfred amongst his people
in the warm sunshine. South African Airways offered the free transport of the
coffin. A very welcome offer, because it meant a great saving in terms of money.
The morning after the Melkweg performance we stood in a group in front of Raymond's
door. The hearse arrived, on its way to the airport, and stopped to 'let in
his spirit'. Then the coffin left on a freight flight to Johannesburg from where
we would fly on with it to Port Elizabeth. The last flight was very heavy. I
had such good memories of our flights together and this was the last one.
In Port Elizabeth a very emotional moment followed: the meeting with Lillian,
Raymond's mother and his family. It was not made easier when we was discovered
that the coffin had not arrived with us. Something had gone wrong with the freight
in Nigeria. We decided to carry on to Port Alfred because it was obvious that
the coffin would not arrive that day. We heard later in the day that a Boeing
747 had crashed and had burned out, only the cockpit was intact and most of
the crew seemed to have survived, the rest of the aeroplane was destroyed. It
was especially difficult for Lillian. It was much easier for all of us from
Holland because we had already been able to say goodbye to Raymond, but for
the family here everything was so far away.
Now we could only wait and hope that the remains of Raymond would be found.
We decided to go ahead with the service because of all the people who had come
to Port Alfred. The remains of Raymond were found a few days later. The inside
of a coffin is lined with zinc for international transport and the ashes from
the coffin were gathered and put into a small box for transport to Port Elizabeth.
This would arrive a day too late for the service, so that the funeral would
not take place on the day of the service which is unusual.
MEMORIAL SERVICE IN PORT ALFRED
A goat, a sheep and a cow were slaughtered in the days preceding the memorial
service. Shopping was in large quantities: 12,5kg sugar and flour, all stored
in a huge tent.
The day itself began with a service in Raymond's church. Packed full. Naturally
with singing and dancing and with a bellowing sermon of which I understood nothing.
Why did I never manage to learn Xhosa? A number of speakers recollected memories
and I was asked to describe the course of his sickness. A lot of importance
was attached to the exact reason of his death. It was not an easy task, but
I think I managed quite well. On request of Raymond's mother the service lasted
a couple of hours instead of a whole day. In the meantime a meal was being prepared
for everyone at home. The house, tent and garden were completely full. The local
township band played with various soloist guests. The special Raymond atmosphere
FETCHING RAYMOND'S ASHES
The little box with Raymond's ashes arrived the next day at the airport. While
I was away for a short while there was a telephone call to say that the flight
was early and a car had left the airport without me. When I heard that I felt
deeply unhappy and I went after them. I wanted to pick him up myself. And then
to drive back to Port Alfred with Raymond's brother and Raymond's sister and
with a box with Raymond's ashes on your lap. A bizarre experience. To be safe
we waited to cry until we were out of Port Elizabeth. Warm memories of all the
trips to performances came back. A large group had assembled at the undertaker
for the arrival.
Everyone stood in a sort of line of honour singing on both sides of the path
where Raymond's sister, followed by the others, brought the little coffin inside.
Everyone prayed and cried.
The funeral took place the day after. A tombstone had been chosen a few days before
with a place in the cemetery and the grave had been dug by friends. The tiny
box was put into a normal coffin just before the funeral and was taken to the
house. The coffin was put out in the garden and decorated with flowers from
the South African Embassy in the Netherlands. A service was held in the garden,
after which we drove in a row to the cemetery. I found the fact that we did
all the manual work ourselves very helpful: we carried the coffin
ourselves, we shovelled the grave closed ourselves. It made it all less distant
and depressing. To dig until you are sweating can do you good on such an occasion
and even creates a kind of bond with the grave. It was striking that here it's
the custom to throw a layer of cement in halfway, as a sort of insurance that
the coffin will be left to rest in peace. The covering of the grave took place
later, we were now busy with the unveiling of the stone and laying flowers on
the ground. It was all in all a beautiful ceremony. It was not too emotional
for me. No tears today. I think it had lasted long enough and it was now time
to close it all off.
A WEEK'S STAY
Most guests had to leave, but there was still a lot of work waiting in Port
Alfred for the Foundation and I wanted to spend a quieter time with the family.
I stayed a week longer for that reason. The weather alternated between glorious
warm summer weather and refreshing weather with rain and thunder clouds. The
nature is lush and green here this year. Silver herons and spoonbills a few
hundred metres from the house. Beautiful sandy beaches within walking distance
with the most exquisite shifting dunes you can imagine. A wonderfully rough
sea. I used the time as a sort of holiday, with talks about possible Afro Vibes
projects, meeting students, some organizing work, shopping and I also took the
opportunity to get to know the family a bit better.
DAY RETURN SOUTH AFRICA -THE NETHERLANDS
The week flew by and it was time to return to Holland. It was difficult to
say goodbye and leave Raymond. It was time to find a way of getting back to
normal life once again, not only for me but for the family.
The aeroplane was not full and I took advantage of not only a window seat, but
also two empty seats next to me, so I could lie down. My parents had left early
to wait for me at Schiphol. We had looked at the video we made during the past
week. I was back only an hour in Holland when I received a telephone call from
South African Airways that they had found more remains of Raymond. They offered
me a ticket and tried to get me on a flight to Nigeria to see where the aeroplane
had crashed and to transport the remains of Raymond myself to Port Alfred. I
got news from SAA the next day that it was not possible to organize a ticket
to Nigeria, it was cargo ticket from another company. But there was a ticket
to fly back to Port Elizabeth the same afternoon. Hardly a day after my arrival
in Amsterdam I was back in the aeroplane to South Africa.
WAITING ON THE BEACH
The haste of SAA to get me back to South Africa was not really necessary. It seemed
we would have to wait a few days before the coffin from Nigeria arrived in South
Africa. And days became weeks. Delay after delay. First the aeroplane could
not leave Nigeria because there was no fuel at the airport. Then the papers
were not in order. Then the body was in a state in which it was not allowed
to be transported. It didn't make much difference to me, but it was becoming
more and more unbearable for the family. Finally the body of Raymond was released
about one and a half months after his death.
In the meantime our days were filled with beach diversions: swimming, stunt
flying and sliding down the dunes on a piece of hardboard at high speed. And
shopping. It was shocking to see how thrilled the children were with a few cheap
new clothes for Christmas. And shocking to realize that if you buy a boy a pair
of cheap sports shoes, you are spending the equivalent of his mother's monthly
salary. Take it from me, that there is only one form of entertainment in the
township - alcohol - and it's obvious how hopeless the situation is here. I
have seen with my own eyes that the only way out of this misery is a good education.
I understand more than ever now why Raymond set up the Afro Vibes Foundation
and the Scholarship Project. If we want to continue Raymond's ideals, then the
way to do it is to carry on with this project. We renamed it the Raymond Matinyana
Fund and ask everyone to donate.
THE SECOND FUNERAL
Back to the transport of Raymond's body. This time it was not a small box that was
handed over in Port Elizabeth but a real coffin with the real body of Raymond.
Raymond's body was thrown out of the coffin when the aeroplane crashed and was
hidden under pieces of the wreck. The ash from the metal coffin was therefore
not Raymonds. Because the first coffin had been blessed, it was decided to leave
it in the grave and place the new coffin next to it.
A group from Johannesburg had decided to drive 1000 km down to Port Alfred again
for the second funeral, but as if it was not enough, they had an accident. Luckily
it did not seem to be too serious and everyone was discharged from the hospital
after one day.
The funeral was once again a short service at home, the funeral itself at the
cemetery of course, and afterwards we talked at home with sandwiches and juice.
For most of us it's a relief to know that it's really Raymond lying in the grave.
In the afternoon we went to the beach for 'after tears' and had a braai and
swim. It was a good way to close a very bizarre period of one and a half months.
I flew back to the Netherlands at the beginning of the new year. I must now
find the courage and energy to build up a new life without Raymond. It will
be some time before the beautiful memories replace the emptiness. The disappointment
that it is all over, just when everything seemed to be taking off musically
for Raymond. Not only the band but also the Foundation.
What enormous support I got in this difficult time! There are so many people
who have shown that Raymond was a very special person in their lives. And there
are so many people who want to support and continue Raymond's work. I think
that the best we can do to honour Raymond, is to continue what Raymond started,
as volunteer and/or donor; to support students and projects in South Africa,
especially in his township, and to promote the cultural exchange between South
Africa and the Netherlands. If this appeals to you let us know. Let's keep Raymond's
I also hope that we will manage to finish making Raymond's CD. It will still
take a lot of time and effort. But if we succeed, I think we will have the most
valuable memory of Raymond possible.